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A single dad. Submitted by: Doug Warburton 
Single….hmm, were to start? What is it like to be single and to be a parent? Well, it seems that both are separate but connected, at least to me. I want to be able to have a relationship but also to be the father of my girls, and to raise them. But here is a question for everyone out there! How can I do this? I want to have a relationship with someone, but I am worried that she will not want to have anything to do with me because I am the dad of two very young girls. Most women my age, and I am guessing, have already raised their children and really don’t want to have to help or participate in raising any more. They are now free to experience life as an adult! No ties or children to keep them from doing so. The cruise to Greece, or the parties in New Orleans, or perhaps the beaches of Figi! What does a dad with two little girls do? I wonder who has the answer! I have friends that are single and now have found romance come into their lives. We will talk, but just not as much as we used too! They are busy creating new lives for themselves and I know they will keep me in their minds, they are my true friends, but they are moving forward in their own lives and they should. So, again my question.. What do I do? I now focus on my daughters and I know that is not a bad thing, but………well, I would like some romance in my life too! Hardest part is, I just don’t seem to know how to find it! One day it is there, and the next it is gone. Why? How come? What do I need to do? Do I just give up or do I simply stop looking or even wanting? Some say that I should go out to the bars. I don’t do bars. I don’t like anything about the bar. Too many people that drink too much and, well….just don’t like that, though there are women, it’s just not me. One suggested going more often to church. Okay, well that really isn’t me either. It’s okay once in a while, but I prefer the outdoors with my girls as opposed to being under a roof and four walls, except when we are home. Shopping for food has been suggested. Can’t understand why it was suggested, because we all have to eat, no matter how pretty or handsome we think we are! I will say that shopping is interesting however. Interesting to see what everyone gets. Funny how one can see another person and see what they are buying and think “Oh my God, they eat the same things I do!” Wow, and who would have thought that and what are the possibilities of that ever happening? They drink milk and eat bread and like shrimp? Oh my God!!! GET OUT!! Okay, I guess that is enough banter! I just really want to know what I should do? It’s been a few years since I have been married and a long time since I have had to think about finding some one significant. Hmm...... You know what? I think that I just won’t worry about it or even ponder. It will happen if it is going to, and if not…oh well, such is life… I think I am going to go listen to the surf and close my eyes. When I open them, I will listen to the birds. If the time comes, it will come for me or for any of us in this dilema but until then, I will watch over my girls......alone! And that is okay. Doug  
written by: Kenda
I agree with Been There, Done That....when your not looking for it, it is there! Staring you down and asking you "Whatcha gonna do about it?, HUH?"
Just know that I hear you and I understand all that you wrote.
Be patient, love your girls, stay positive (as much as you can) and never, NEVER give up hope.
Always hold onto the promise of love....she's out there...I know it!
Kenda
written by: DTTB Grandma
Doug, take it from someone who has been there and has a few years under the belt, you can look all you want, but there's no rhyme or reason to relationships. The person that could be your soul mate might be right in front of you and you don't even know it. I know it's hard to stay positive all the time...no, it's downright impossible, but trust me on this, there are lots of women out there who are just as lonely and wanting a loving, gentle man regardless of whether there are children or not, who would welcome them as their own. I can hear your thoughts....then where the hell are they? I have no real good advice other than keep networking, try to stay local (long-distance just rarely ever works), just get out there....sporting events you like, community family events, even the freaking bowling alley. I really doesn't matter. All I can tell you definitively is that it WILL happen. Meanwhile, just love those little girls (and I know you do) and just keep your awareness antenna tuned all around you. When you least expect it, and when it's probably the last thing on your mind at the moment, BAM, love will find you. Been There, Done That
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